Something Different for Mother’s Day
There are going to be a ton of posts about what to get your mom for Mother’s Day and I could sure add to them, but I thought I would take this in a slightly different direction.
I mean…You probably all ready know what she likes, and have plans to get her that thing, to show your love and appreciation for all she has done. And that is awesome, I could not hope to improve on your own ideas.
Except….
My mom passed away nearly 6 years ago. She was the last of Marc and my parents left, so her passing was significant to us..we were orphans. If you haven’t experienced that odd feeling, sadly you will, everyone does. It is weird to not be someone’s kid. Even at 40-something. And even though her and my relationship had alot of rocky moments I adored her. She lived with us that last, very hard, six months. Wouldn’t want to ever go through that again. Wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Time. Time is the one gift that noone else can give her. It is the one thing that you can’t buy on eBay, or get back once it is gone.
So. Take her for coffee. Create a tea just for her. In fact..check back with me because I have the making for the coolest Mother’s Day tea ever.
But it can really be as simple as having a standing coffee date regularly, if she lives close. Head over to her house with your coffee maker, a grinder, and a bag of your favorite. Take special mugs to use ONLY with her, ONLY on your coffee day. Take some cookies like Maple Shortbread or Faux Berger Cookies
Sure. She is gonna harass you about you nose piercing, and that new tattoo. She may even ask if you have changed your underwear lately. Mom’s do that. They are the most irritating, critical creatures on the planet.
But when they are gone there is this big hole that never quite heals up. It never quite gets filled with other things. And you find that, once in awhile, you would endure that criticism for just one more hug from her.. if only you could.
If you have the opportunity to spend time with your mom, do so. It is the best gift of all.
Oh..the image? Me and Kyrie..bad hair day, no make up. She loves me anyway.
Image: Marye Audet
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9 opinions for Something Different for Mother’s Day
Noble Pig
May 2, 2008 at 5:59 pm
You are absolutely right. Time is all a mother wants.
I could care less about another object, big hugs and spendng the day with my family will be perfect.
Marye
May 2, 2008 at 7:12 pm
I agree. I hope my kids remember that. Besides, you don;t have to dust time,a nd it won’t make you fat
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May 3, 2008 at 7:35 am
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Ivory Spring
May 3, 2008 at 8:24 am
Great post, Marye - as always. Thanks for sharing! :)
Marye
May 3, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Thanks, Ivory!
Ellie
May 4, 2008 at 12:45 am
You’re so right…after witnessing just how broken my own mother was when she lost her mother (my nanna), I realized that my mother wouldn’t be around forever, that there was a time limit on how long we would have our laughs, days out, nights in, cuddles and even arguments. Since then, I try and have a special day with just her once a month, and remind her that I love her at every opportunity.
And every memory, good and bad, is being committed to heart.
Oh, and that photo of you and your daughter is adorable, the wee lass perched on your lap :)
Marye
May 4, 2008 at 7:17 pm
Thank you Ellie! I used to have a special time with my mom every week…I am glad you have time with yours! Thanks for stopping by
jo
May 7, 2008 at 12:55 pm
The post was beautiful. Sadly, I think the only thing holding me back besides physical distance is that she cannot relax enough to do something or talk. I suppose I will just have to pray that we get the time and use it wisely. I would love to be able to spend some times with her. I have always considered the fact that anything could happen and they wouldn’t be there. I cannot imagine the feeling. I have recently decided at some point soon, to go and visit in a local rest home, especially to men and women whom do not have family to visit them. Maybe I will for Mothers’ day. :)
Also, the photo is very cute, and for not having any make up and a supposed “bad hair day”, I think you are very beautiful!
Marye
May 7, 2008 at 5:56 pm
Thankyou Jo!
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